Fifty Shades of Mixed Messages – How NOT to Give Advice

There are a ton of Fifty Shades of Grey reviews out there, and I’ll tell you this is not one of them.

What it is, however, is some solid feedback we can all learn from. Recently, I read a Fifty Shades review which included not-so sound advice. Because I have seen this so many times, I figured it was something that needed to be discussed.

This JRCtv episode is about the messages we share with young people about life lessons.

Let me ask you this, when you say (or demonstrate) “Do as I say, not as I do”, are you being a warning of what not to do, or examples of what to do in life? 

A warning indeed.

Though this topic was sparked by a very popular blog post, which I’ll be VERY clear from the start, the writer’s message was beautiful and important. The initial tone however, is something I’d like to give feedback on for you to learn and grow from.

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Here is the specific opener I’m encouraging you to learn from, highlighted in red are examples I’ll be discussing in today’s JRCtv epsiode:

“Tonight, I succumbed to peer pressure (exactly what I caution you NEVER to do) and went with a bunch of girlfriends to see Fifty Shades of Grey. I ignored the little voice in my head that implored me to just say “no!” because, after all, it’s just a silly movie, right? Well, I wish I had done as I always tell you to do and given that voice credit because it was right. The thing is, I’m also kind of glad I didn’t because now I have these words for you.”

I especially wanted to discuss this topic of sending mixed messages with you, not just because of this blog post, but more so because I hear and see people “sending mixed messages” so often these days. It leaves people unaccountable for their actions and confuses the younger generation.

Again, I completely respect her core message about what real love is later in the blog post.

If we expect anyone to truly listen to our guidance we must understand when we send mixed messages we end up simply discrediting all the great advice we are giving.

Here’s a little bullet list of the problems I’ll discuss in today’s video and how to over come them in the download to go along with today’s post:

• Giving into peer pressure even when you don’t advise it.
• Going against the “little voice” even though you recommend listening to it.
• Being grateful you didn’t listen to the “little voice” though you always say you should.
• Not standing up for what you believe in, then bashing someone who doesn’t either.

These are the main problems I see. Though the rest of the message is valuable, the stage is kind of set by saying “though I don’t take my own advice or hold myself truly accountable, you should”

Now if that’s not confusing, I don’t know what is.

If we expect the be the best versions of ourselves..
If we expect to make the world a better place…
If we expect to be an incredibly positive role model in anyone’s life, especially your own children…

If we expect to make a difference, it’s best we truly “Live It!” and practice what we preach.

My recommendation is that we are the greatest examples of how to live a happy, loving and fulfilling life. My hope is that your best advice is not “do as I say, not as I do” but instead “Do as I do because there’s no better example of how to love, live, and give.”

If we expect to make a meaningful and lasting impression on anyone we must “LIVE IT!”.

Tune in, get the solutions to this advice epidemic, and download the goods to be the change you want to see in the world.

To your success,

Jairek Robbins