What was the last book that left you literally scrambling for a pen, dog earring nearly half the book and taking notes like crazy? From time to time I cross paths with books that rock my world and leave me wanting to tell everyone about it.
My personal coaching clients are usually the first to hear about it, but today I wanted to make sure you were able to get in on this goodness as well.
If you’ve been looking for a great book lately… I’ve got three for you today!
3 of my (recent) favorite books that will leave you happier, healthier, and more fulfilled
The Happiness Advantage by Shawn Achor
This book is based on 200 studies on over 275,000 people in the world that discovered happy people tend to have better marriages, better health, more money, have better performance ratings and all types of other amazing benefits!
If you’ve been hanging out with us on Facebook Live each day, you have heard a lot about this over the past month, but if you haven’t I didn’t want you to miss out. So, here are 5 simple things Shawn Achor (the author) says you can do to rewire your brain for the Happiness Advantage.
1- Train your brain by writing down 3 gratitudes per day. At the end of the day, write down ” 3 great things that happened today that you are grateful for?” It does not matter how complex or simple but if you can, identify them and write them down. When you do this you train your brain to scan your world and to look for what’s right with it instead of what’s wrong with it.
2 – Journal about 1 great thing that happened this week. Spend roughly 10 minutes writing in detail about this special moment, what it meant to you and what you really appreciated about it. This will also boost your happiness.
3- Exercise for at least 30 minutes 4 times a week. The book reviews a research study where they took people who were clinically depressed and split them into three groups. The first group they gave anti-depressants medication. The second group, they prescribed exercise and the third group – they gave a combination of both medication and exercise. What’s amazing was there was a huge relapse rate for the people who just took medication. The people who did both, had a much lower relapse rate but the people who just exercised had a relapse of only 8%. Exercise was more effective than and just as effective as medication was (mind blowing I know!!).
4- Meditate. There’s an awesome device called Muse (www.ChooseMuse.com) . You wear a special headband and it measures your brainwaves and heart rate. There is an app that goes with it that gives you bio feedback during the meditation session. The goal is to keep your mind silent, peaceful and calm. It tells you through auditory feedback if you’re allowing thoughts to creep in or if you are keeping your mind calm and clear.
Use it for just 3 minutes each day and what it starts you to do is to control your thoughts. So when your mind starts to get flooded with negative thoughts or fearful thoughts, it gives you the ability to take a couple of breaths and clear all those thoughts out, refocus, get in the game and get to work and really perform at your best.
5- Random Acts of Kindness. This one is a WIN-WIN-WIN. It not only helps you but it also helps the person who’s receiving it and anyone who’s observing it. When you do a random act of kindness, its shown that dopamine and serotonin both kick off in your brain. The person receiving the kind act gets the same internal effect and even someone observing gets the positive benefits. Thats why so many people love watching those random acts of kindness videos on YouTube.
Peak: How Great Companies Get Their Mojo from Maslow by Chip Conley
In this book I discovered a really simple diagram that is so valuable in life, business and relationships. The author notes that there are 3 levels of communication and transaction between clients, employees and investors. The neat part is that these levels are helpful in business and all other personal relationships as well.
The first level is transactional. Meaning: I will do X for you if you give me Y.
The 2nd level which is the relationship level, you build a true relationship, you care about these people, you acknowledge, identify their strengths, and really connect with them on those and really help on make them feel valued in what they are doing.
Transformational is the 3rd level – by being part of this relationship, they are literally becoming a better human being in the process.
There is so much more awesomeness in this book! You are going to love it!
Mindset by Carol Dweck
Carol did tons and tons of research focused on the difference of people struggling vs. people who are succeeding. Based on all her scientific research, she found data to backup the fact that there is a difference between growth mindset vs. fixed mindset.
A fixed mindset person is someone that says, “I’m stuck the way I am, I can’t really change. I just have to figure out what I’m good at and only do that because I am not meant or able to do anything else.”
A growth mindset person says, “hey, it doesn’t matter what I am capable yet or not capable yet as long as I am willing to put the time, effort, energy and focus and everything I have inside me, I can become a master of this.” She relates this book to business, finance, relationships, health and everything in between to help us understand how it effect every facet of our life!
Download the worksheet below for an great visual on a fixed versus growth mindset.
To your success,